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WHY CHANGE AND IMPROVE?

PSYCHOLOGY / ESSAYS / 2020-07-09

Why would you want to improve yourself, others and the world? — To experience less pain and suffering… especially when you interact with reality. If all is great in your life and you’re content with everything, then don’t improve, stay the same. But even the greatest,  + 

HOW TO USE INSTAGRAM TO LEARN ABOUT SOMEONE

PSYCHOLOGY / SOCIAL MEDIA / SOCIETY / ESSAYS / 2020-07-02

Instagram is a great tool to get to know people. Open a profile and: Scroll through their posts — sample their taste (or lack thereof), attention to detail (feet cut off, random branches in the frame, etc.) Pay attention to the number of selfies —  + 

MEN ALSO TEST THEIR WOMEN

PSYCHOLOGY / SOCIETY / ESSAYS / 2020-06-24

There’s this idea that only women “test” their men. Nah. Men test their women as well. And it’s OK to test early, test often. Even testing to failure. Like we do in engineering. But what’s really important is the quality of those tests. Because the  + 

DO YOU CHOOSE SAFE OR STRONG?

PSYCHOLOGY / SOCIETY / ESSAYS / 2020-05-19

Strong is an active capacity to interact, rebound and grow in adversity (emotional, intellectual, physical). Strong is seeking out adventure and challenge, people that disagree with you, mentors that pinpoint your fallacies, nature that humbles your invincibility. Strong is giving your best to build new  + 

YOU MAY THINK WHATEVER NONSENSE YOU LIKE TILL REALITY SLAMS YOU

PSYCHOLOGY / SOCIETY / ESSAYS / 2020-05-06

It’s real simple. The brain is an organ which, like any other organ in the body, maintains an acceptable state of balance to remain alive. Your consciousness is a (small) part of this organ’s activity. To keep the brain in balance, the consciousness creates stories  + 

EVERY MAN FOR HIMSELF TILL THE BITTER END OF HUMAN CIVILIZATION

ECONOMICS / ENVIRONMENT / ESSAYS / OUTSIDE NEWS / 2019-12-13

The UK General Election shows us, yet again, and unlike in the EU Referendum, without any remaining doubt, that the populations most at risk vote for their own masochistic downfall. The people who stand to lose the most from the complete dismantlement of government health  + 

HAPPY PEOPLE TEND TO MARRY (NOT MARRIED PEOPLE ARE HAPPIER)

PSYCHOLOGY / SOCIETY / ESSAYS / 2018-06-02

Remember the “married people are happier on average than singles” stat? Well, it could be that the direction of causation is actually reversed: happiness _causes_ marriage. Higher levels of serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin bring about and maintain a marriage. ;)  + 

THE GOAL OF MEDITATION (VS RELAXATION)

PSYCHOLOGY / SPIRIT / ESSAYS / 2018-01-30

Sitting down, closing your eyes and focusing on your breath is… relaxation. Which is fine. The point of meditation is to move beyond the confines of the illusory separate self into a stabilized state of maximum awareness (and eventually enlightenment) where you experience the cessation  + 

LIVE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT?

PSYCHOLOGY / ESSAYS / 2017-08-05

That “live in the present moment” thing? Well, you know what, it’ll become a “dead in the past forever” thing in 100 years max. Ignore human-scale time at your own risk. Oh, and the “God only knows the Plan” thing… that’s so you follow someone  + 

SPEED OF LIGHT VS SPEED OF LIFE

PSYCHOLOGY / TRAVEL / ESSAYS / 2017-07-08

The night sky represents the myriad of opportunities you’ll never realize, trillions of galaxies, each containing millions of stars and dozens of places to go and see. A stark reminder of our limits. Speed of light vs speed of life.  + 

SUCCESS IN ART IS PREDICATED ON TOLERANCE

ART THEORY / PSYCHOLOGY / ESSAYS / 2017-02-26

Success in art is predicated on tolerance: tolerance to stress, tolerance to the unknown, tolerance to failure, tolerance to social pressure. Some of it is built-in, hard-coded with your DNA. Some can be modified and improved with discipline training, emotional awareness / control / sublimation,  + 

BERLIN VIOLIN STUDENTS DATE MUSIC STUDENTS WHO SUPPORT THEIR PRACTICE

ART THEORY / PSYCHOLOGY / REVIEWS / 2016-11-29

“Not only did the Berlin violin students spend most of their time with other music students, but they also tended to date music students or at least others who would appreciate their passion for music and understand their need to prioritize their practice.” Anders Ericsson  + 

DIANE ARBUS LAST SUPPER

ART THEORY / PHOTOGRAPHY / PSYCHOLOGY / ESSAYS / 2016-07-14

On Monday, July 26, 1971, Diane Arbus wrote the words “Last Supper” in her diary. She placed the appointment book on the stairs leading to the bathroom. She swallowed a large dose of barbiturates and, still in her clothes, laid down inside the tub. Then,  + 

IS YOUR WORK A JOB, A CAREER OR A CALLING?

PSYCHOLOGY / ESSAYS / 2016-04-22

“Recent research finds that most people approach their work in one of 3 ways: 1) a job 2) a career 3) a calling If you see your work as a job, you do it only for the money, you look at the clock frequently, while  + 

MAKE ART OR HAVE KIDS?

ART THEORY / PSYCHOLOGY / SOCIETY / ESSAYS / 2014-03-03

Having kids is a weak argument for dropping the ball artistically & professionally. Kids would prefer parents they admire past their teens. Oh, and if you’re projecting your lifelong dreams onto your kids… that’s a big no-no. They won’t be correcting your own life’s mistakes.  + 

BEWARE OF THE “BEING IN THE PRESENT” OBSESSION

PSYCHOLOGY / ESSAYS / 2013-12-19

Beware of the current “being in the present” obsession of self-help books. The human brain evolved to model the past and future. It’s what makes us human. Don’t deny it. Embrace all 3 tenses and learn to hop around the timeline at will.  + 

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